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30 Days of Submission #5

Written By: gracie - Sep• 06•11

This prompt comes from the girl at Defer and Submit.

Have you been or are you in a dominant/submissive dynamic relationship or is this new to you? Have you been in more than one D/s relationship? How were they the same? How were they different? What is unique about your relationships in your mind?

I am in a D/s relationship now with my husband. I dabbled with online stuff (which is how we met), but he’s the only relationship of this sort I’ve had in person. It’s difficult to compare online relationships to offline, so I won’t really go into that, except to say that I had a fantastic knack for putting myself in a position to be victimized, but ended up getting lucky.  If I hadn’t started with the online community, I almost certainly wouldn’t be writing this particular blog.  

My relationship is unique pretty much the same way all relationships are unique.  We’re unique people with our own experiences of life and love, and we bring our own perspectives to our roles.  I think, more specifically, that we’re quite different in that we have a range of play- I love the rough take-down dominant scenes, but we also do an almost non-sexual Daddy/little girl dynamic, as well.

We also don’t do a total power exchange, as I’ve mentioned previously.  Some of our experiences have to be modified due to issues of physical and emotional wellness.  I don’t refer to him as Sir all the time.  I’ve been released from his collar and not from his side.  These all seem like things that might not apply in traditional D/s households.  We keep what works for us, and the rest of it we discard.  I hope that’s not terribly unique, though.  It seems like it would get tiresome to adhere to rules and regulations that don’t work well.

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