Daily Submissions

30 Days of Submission #1

Written By: gracie - Aug• 16•11

The girl at Defer and Submit posted 30 days of prompts for submission, and it piqued my interest. I’m going to utilize them in order, though I may not use them every day. I’m starting today with the first question:

Does your submission – either what you practice or what you strive for – have a label? Do you view your submission as Taken in Hand, domestic discipline, top/bottom, dominant/submissive, master/slave, owner/pet, or some other description or combination? If you do not use a label, why?

I am one of the few people who really like labels, in most cases.  I like having things neatly categorized and identified.  It makes me feel secure.  I like having things all laid out for me to survey and assess.  I guess I’m kind of a control freak in that respect.  So I identify with a lot of labels.  I don’t feel limited by them, though.  They are all open to my interpretation.

I identify as a lot of roles at different times.  I’ve mentioned them here and there- the one I relate to the most is “submissive,” because I am submissive in most (if not all, at some level) of my other labels.  Submission is the most important role to me, ultimately.  I’m absolutely not a slave.  It works for some, and I originally thought I would take to that distinction, but my relationship with my Sir evolved in such a way that I can’t conceive of it now.  

Masochist is a word that keeps coming to mind.  It just sounds so extreme! As previously mentioned, I like some pain. I get very excited about marks.  I love spankings, especially where we are in our relationship right now.  I love it when my Sir pushes my boundaries, but I’m not sure that makes me a masochist in the traditional sense.  I can feel very submissive when I get pain, but I do tend to fight and be bratty- I need to feel dominated when this happens.

I also have a very soft and sweet-voiced little girl side.  In this role, I am extremely compliant.  I love to feel protected and treasured, and I love to be made to squirm.  I tend to be more inclined toward humiliation in this headspace.  I want to please my Daddy, so He can push me further, knowing that I won’t object.

Lots of things push my buttons.  Even when I fight, I want to be mastered.

I might not be a One True Way anything, but I still greedily claim all the labels that appeal to me. 

Great prompt!

I also have news to share with y’all! My Sir decided to start his own blog.  If you want to get to know him, his blog is Duality of Pain.  I know I’m biased here, but he has a brilliantly complex mind, and I’d prefer to read his entries over mine any day!  He only has a couple of entries up as of now, but they’re great.  Watch for an upcoming entry from me where I talk about all the things that make my Sir so wonderful.  Well, maybe a small percentage of the things, since I don’t want a massive wall of text.   I suppose I could write a whole series, but the sweetness overload might shock some people into a coma. I’ll try and show some small amount of restraint, if I can.

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